REMINDER:

You’re not asking too much. In fact, most people don’t ask for enough.

You deserve it all. Ask for everything. Be willing to receive it all. Be willing to do what it takes to have it all work in your favour.

Raise your standards.

Declare your desires.

Give more of yourself.

Help wherever you can.

Raise your hand, say yes, reach out, make the call, forgive, heal, rise up and be willing to show up everyday.

The world needs more of you and the most efficient way for you to reach us is for you to be all the way lit up doing things you love.

Expect it to work out.

Don’t leave any room for doubt.

 

 

👊🏼It’s Possible to have the life you dream of.

👊🏼It’s possible to grow up with nothing and have a successful adulthood.

👊🏼It’s possible to know what hunger feels like and then have the capacity to feed others.

👊🏼It’s possible to recover from a lifetime of abuse and learn to love yourself.

👊🏼It’s possible to yearn for true love and then wake up next to the person who loves you like no other.

👊🏼It’s possible to forgive yourself from making so many mistakes.

👊🏼It’s possible to heal your trauma and go on to show others how to heal.

👊🏼It’s possible to know the depths of poverty and then to understand what it feels like to have abundance.

👊🏼It’s possible to surround yourself only with incredible, kind, generous and passionate people.

👊🏼It’s possible to have the privilege of a good family life.

👊🏼It’s possible to create a career where you wake up every morning and thank God you’re alive and get to pour your heart into others.

👊🏼It’s possible to imagine a new tomorrow and be willing to show up everyday in order to create everything you have ever dreamed.

And most importantly:

👊🏼It’s possible to turn it all around.

 

My boundaries…

Are mine

and in place for good reason.

They keep me safe and sane and let me declare to myself and the world how to respect myself.

They are a roadmap of what I need to always find my way back to myself.

They are a way I choose to measure what I can and can’t accept.

They are not here to make you comfortable or to justify your existence in my life at all….

In fact, they have nothing to do with you.

They are mine, FOR me and FROM me so that I can practice the art of self love and self respect and show up as boldly as possible.

They allow me to feel free within my own heart because I am honouring the property lines of my soul.

You see, for a really long time, I didn’t come first in my own life. I was too afraid to speak up and declare the amount of air I needed in order to breathe.

I tiptoed around what my soul begged of me for fear that what I needed would be too much.

I let others pick away at whatever parts of me they desired and I didn’t question them.

I made do with the scraps of myself that were left behind.

And it hurt like hell.

So much so that I could feel myself dying.

I could feel myself choking on the leftovers of the person I wanted to be.

I was afraid of not having what I wanted and so I rejected myself.

There came a time when I had to choose between loving myself and giving up completely.

You can be sure I chose myself.

And in doing so, I created a manifesto of my self love…and with that came what I would no longer allow.

My beautiful boundaries are my guide of unquestionable servitude to myself.

My unshakable faith in trusting that I can deliver what I need to myself.

My commitment to continuously take responsibility for what I need in my own life.

A delicate reminder of my devotion to this incredible life I’ve been gifted.

So, yeah, I have boundaries.

Because when I leave it up to others I almost always miss out on what I truly need to function.

Because it’s not your job to fill me up.

It’s mine.

I am my own responsibility.

I draw lines in the sand, I stand up for myself, I lovingly say “fuck you” when life offers me anything less than I promised myself.

And I won’t stop and apologize to anyone for whatever I need to do in order to love myself without exception.

It’s not that I don’t care how my boundaries affect you – it’s that I CAN’T care if I truly love myself because they are what I need in order to feel safe and loved and whole.

And I am willing to do whatever it takes in order to keep my promises to myself.

Because while I don’t expect for your world to revolve around me – I am 1000% certain that mine does.

 

Your life is allowed to be fun and effortless and exciting and relaxing and successful and abundant and anything you want it to be.

It doesn’t have to be heavy

It doesn’t have to be hard

You don’t have to suffer

You don’t have to do without

Decide what you want and then make it your mission.

You are worthy of all the goodness you dream of in your heart of hearts 💖

 

You don’t have to earn my respect.

I give respect from the get go because that’s what feels good and authentic to me. Also, because I believe in #uncommondecency but if you act in ways that tarnish, diminish or downright obliterate it then that’s a whole other story.

Sometimes, people earn my disrespect. And if that’s where you put your energy in our connection then we may never come back from that. But you start off with a full tank of respect and I trust that it will be cherished and nurtured and sacred….to both of us.

No matter what I’ve lived through, survived, thrived and bounced back from, I know in my heart of hearts that people are mostly incredible and talented and lovable and good. 

Even the ones who seem pretty shitty – I feel like they are dealing with their own stuff and send all the healing and happy dust their way that I can muster. I steer clear from assholes but I still wish them well on their own journey. Just stay the fuck away from me ✌🏼💋

I truly believe life is fleeting and glorious and terrible and amazing all at the same time and I know time is the most phenomenal gift we have. So I choose not to waste it, take it for granted or spend it on things/people/places that don’t serve me.

I am determined to surround myself with beautiful souls who love hard and live well and aim to bring as much goodness to this planet as they can. I don’t make myself available for anything less than fabulous and that’s just how I roll.

Allowing someone in your life or engaging with someone who is determined to disrespect you is, in my opinion, abusive. 

If someone can’t summon up a basic courtesy such as respecting your choices, lifestyle, desires and needs, then their presence in your life will only deteriorate the goodness you have created. 

And not everyone can afford to lose an ounce of goodness.

 

How I fell in love with being told, “NO!”

I remember when I became an adult and I realized the power of decision making. It was the first time when I was truly in charge of my own life and I knew I needed to make decisions that represented me.

I discovered that if I left it up to others, more often than not, the answer would be no.

Not because people are assholes (some are!) but because no one else could see my dreams as clearly as I could.

But, if I figured out a way to work for or create what I wanted, then I would almost always get what I was after.

The more I figured out another way to achieve my goal, the more I relied on my own talents and stopped seeking permission from others.

The word, “no” bothered me less and less. Instead of taking it personally, I understood people’s “no” to simply mean that they were unwilling to help me, or they didn’t understand my vision – rather than that I couldn’t have the outcome I desired. It became more of a roadmap of where I needed to turn in order to get closer to what I wanted.

When I heard the word, “no” I simply translated it to mean, “I can’t or won’t help you”

Not that what I wanted was not attainable.

I was being denied by the person – not the opportunity.

So I began to shift.

Learning to change my direction when I was met with a brick wall helped me to trust myself more.

Instead of stopping, I just turned a different corner and kept on going towards my dreams.

It’s important for people to understand the distinction between your dreams being unattainable and a person being unable/unwilling to help you.

So many give up when met with the least amount of resistance and take this to mean that what they want is too difficult or out of their league of what they should expect in life.

That really couldn’t be further from the truth.

It is not anyone else’s job to see your vision clearer than you!

Not only can no one dedicate the same amount of desire to what you hold in your mind and heart, but they also won’t be able to bring it to life the same way that YOU ARE MEANT TO.

Because it isn’t their dream.

Because it isn’t their vision.

Because they aren’t the gatekeepers.

So, don’t take their “no” so seriously.

It doesn’t mean you can’t have what you want.

It means you need to fight for what you want.

Get creative.

Find a way.

Clear the way.

Create a way.

Hearing “NO!” Isn’t where you stop.

It’s where you shift.

 

 

Allow yourself the freedom of accepting who you are.

So many people wondering why things in their lives feel out of whack. Why they don’t feel happy, or fulfilled or loved or successful – or whatever the “thing” is that they feel is lacking.

But here is what I know: everything on the outside of you needs to come second to what is happening on the inside of you.

Once you align yourself from within you begin to see it show up in physical form on the outside.

The more you obsess with the physical object of having to see, feel and hold whatever it is you want, the more distracted you become with how you actually feel about it and the limitations you have inside your mind about it.

We become dogs chasing our own tails – Never any closer to “it” while never realizing that we are “it”

Getting the “thing” isn’t your key to happiness.

Actually becoming – embodying everything that means something to you – the success, the love, the happiness, the joy, the healing, the forgiveness, the ecstasy, the dream….Now you’re on to something!

Understand that ALL of the feelings you have about all of your dreams are completely attainable right now.

The minute you accept how powerful you are within yourself at this very moment and that you have everything you need for the next step, that will be the moment that you are closer than ever before of having those dreams come to life.

 

You get to decide:

 

Who you talk to

 

Who gets your time

 

Who shares your energy

 

Who shares your life

 

Every time. Always. Don’t forget that.

 

It’s all a choice.

 

Don’t like how it’s turning out? 

 

Choose differently. 

 

Choose wisely.

 

But most importantly, choose consciously.

 

Things I’ve told my 8 year old inner child and am now telling you:

🎤You are not a lot of work 

 

🎤You are not hard to love 

 

🎤You do not require a lot of patience 

 

🎤You are not too sensitive 

 

🎤You do not cry too much

 

🎤You are not high maintenance

 

🎤You do not push people away

 

The things we tell children stay with them far longer than we can measure. As adults, it’s important to explore what limiting beliefs we have floating in our subconscious so we can free ourselves from our past 🙌🏽💃🏽🎉💕

 

What are you done believing?