How I fell in love with being told, “NO!”
I remember when I became an adult and I realized the power of decision making. It was the first time when I was truly in charge of my own life and I knew I needed to make decisions that represented me.
I discovered that if I left it up to others, more often than not, the answer would be no.
Not because people are assholes (some are!) but because no one else could see my dreams as clearly as I could.
But, if I figured out a way to work for or create what I wanted, then I would almost always get what I was after.
The more I figured out another way to achieve my goal, the more I relied on my own talents and stopped seeking permission from others.
The word, “no” bothered me less and less. Instead of taking it personally, I understood people’s “no” to simply mean that they were unwilling to help me, or they didn’t understand my vision – rather than that I couldn’t have the outcome I desired. It became more of a roadmap of where I needed to turn in order to get closer to what I wanted.
When I heard the word, “no” I simply translated it to mean, “I can’t or won’t help you”
Not that what I wanted was not attainable.
I was being denied by the person – not the opportunity.
So I began to shift.
Learning to change my direction when I was met with a brick wall helped me to trust myself more.
Instead of stopping, I just turned a different corner and kept on going towards my dreams.
It’s important for people to understand the distinction between your dreams being unattainable and a person being unable/unwilling to help you.
So many give up when met with the least amount of resistance and take this to mean that what they want is too difficult or out of their league of what they should expect in life.
That really couldn’t be further from the truth.
It is not anyone else’s job to see your vision clearer than you!
Not only can no one dedicate the same amount of desire to what you hold in your mind and heart, but they also won’t be able to bring it to life the same way that YOU ARE MEANT TO.
Because it isn’t their dream.
Because it isn’t their vision.
Because they aren’t the gatekeepers.
So, don’t take their “no” so seriously.
It doesn’t mean you can’t have what you want.
It means you need to fight for what you want.
Get creative.
Find a way.
Clear the way.
Create a way.
Hearing “NO!” Isn’t where you stop.
It’s where you shift.
